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5/5/2025 4 Comments

Look Before You Pour!

A T.E.A. Lady's Confession on Discernment, Depletion, and Divine Redirection
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People who know me know me as the T.E.A. lady.
And I don't just mean the kind you sip in a cup.
I mean the kind that costs you something—T.E.A.: your Time, Energy, and Attention.
I pour it freely. I always have.
It's how I share my love, serve, and move purposefully.
But recently, God pressed pause on my pouring… and whispered:

"Look before you pour."

We've been taught to look before we cross the street—but no one told us to look before we pour.
I've been pouring into people, places, and projects for a long time.
And only now, in the stillness of my depletion, do I see it clearly:
I was pouring without protection.

Red Flags I Missed While I Was Pouring:

When words didn't line up with actions.
When people made promises and broke them.
When deadlines came and went without any acknowledgment.
When I was left feeling… unsettled, unseen, and silently dismissed.

The Cost of Pouring Blindly:

Now that I feel empty, I realize something sobering:
I'm the only one to blame.
I wasn't being taken advantage of—I was bypassing discernment.

Dear Dee, 
Empty cups can be filled.
Broken cups cannot.
And when you pour into broken vessels, your tea—your time, energy, and attention—seeps out—wasted & misused.

The Heart of the Helper:
I think, for me anyway—I can't speak for anyone else--
I was always looking for someone to help.
It's who I am—a helper by nature.
But this season, I faced a hard truth as I looked at the backs of people who walked away: some people don't want help.

And if you don't assess the condition of the cup, you'll keep pouring into what can't or won't hold you.
That's not love. That's leakage.
Love does not mean emptying yourself for people who refuse to grow.

The Boundaries That Are Saving Me:
I'm living by a new set of boundaries, and these are my truths.
Sometimes, a door has to be locked.
Access has to be limited.
Not to punish people, but to teach them that your tea is valuable.
That you are valuable.

What God Is Restoring:
God is restoring self-love in me.
And honestly, I don't know if I ever truly had it.
I've been pouring out love for so long
that I forgot to give it to myself.
And that is no longer okay.
Not in this season. Not ever again.

Again, my message is to look before you pour because your tea deserves a worthy cup.

-With Love and A Limited T.E.A. Edition:) 
​Dee

Seasons Change,
People Walk Away,
But the Will of God Remains the same in Jesus' Name.

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For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Jeremiah 29:11

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3/27/2025 3 Comments

Sacred Goodbyes & Divine Alignment: What Silence Taught Me About Myself

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Sometimes, silence is the loudest confirmation.

I can’t find one word to describe the emotional tone of March. It felt like there was an earthquake in my heart that fractured my soul. And what hurt most wasn’t the shaking—it was looking around for the people I expected to help put me back together… and realizing they weren’t there.

This month has been a reckoning. A shifting. An unraveling. But also a divine awakening.

I cried hard when I was met with silence. I felt abandoned. But I also felt the Spirit pressing on my heart, “Pay attention to the pattern.” Something always seems to happen when I choose not to let the darkness consume me. When I decide to rise, realign, and remember who the heck I am—resistance shows up in the form of fractured friendships and wounded words.

But I am light.
I am chosen.
I am a vessel that God is using in the midst of my suffering to heal others.
And maybe—just maybe—this shifting had to happen.
Maybe the placeholders had to be removed so I could fully step into the position God prepared for me.
Because I can’t be available for half-present people anymore. I deserve the same quality of T.E.A. that I pour.
When the anger hit my chest, I knew something had to change.
I can’t keep letting people crack the foundation God is restoring.

The Sacredness of Goodbye

Goodbyes don’t always come crashing in like thunderstorms.
Some arrive like a soft drizzle—barely noticeable at first.
I feel the rain but it’s not heavy enough for the umbrella, so I linger.
I stay in it a little longer.
Then I realize… I’m crying.
And I’m soaking wet.
These quiet goodbyes—the ones wrapped in silence and distance—cut deep.
They don’t come with closure. They don’t come with a fight.
They just fade.
And somehow, that stings more than a blow-up ever could.
But I know now: these were God-byes.
Ordained endings.
Necessary breaks for the season I’m entering.
And even though they left me with silence, what speaks louder is the truth:
Not everyone will fight for you the way you would fight for them.
Not everyone is meant to go where God is taking you.
I’m a cry baby—I’ll admit that.
I feel deeply. I hold on long.
But I’m learning that before anyone else, I have to be my first best friend.
A sacred goodbye may make you cry,
But deep down, you knew.
You knew the end was near.
Because something in your spirit could feel that a new beginning was on the way.
God has gone before me.
He’s doing a new thing.
And even without the closure I thought I needed, I trust He’s already building something better in its place.

Divine Alignment & The Month of April

Alignment isn’t just spiritual—it’s physical too.
And right now, I feel the shift in both.
Something’s off in my body and my soul.
So I’m taking both where they need to go:
My heart and soul to God.
My body to the doctor.
Because I trust what I feel.
And I know the body holds a score, especially when we’ve been holding too much for too long.

April isn’t just a new month—it’s an exit strategy.
I’m stepping out of entanglements that damage my soul.
I’m stepping out of financial deficits and emotional slavery.
I’m stepping out of the past and every broken thing I tried to glue back together.

April, I’m showing up as my friend—someone who can be trusted with me.
And from here forward, I’m keeping my peace close and my people closer—the ones who pour back, the ones who show up, the ones who see me and stay.
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3/2/2025 2 Comments

Letting It Flow: Finding Your Strength in the Release

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The lioness has been released in the belly of Denice.
Strategic. Focused. Discerning.
She moves with divine intention, her purpose revealed by God for her time on this earth.
She has given birth to her new self—reborn, unearthed, and unapologetically powerful.
Passion rooted in pain.
Wisdom cultivated in darkness.
She is the light, protected by heavenly hands, stepping boldly into her season.
She has a divine reason and must protect her soul.
Take off your shoes—this is sacred ground.
The beauty and the beast have reunited, and it feels so good.
She is set up for greatness, standing behind boundaries built with love.
Those aligned with her purpose may enter but cannot stay too long.
The lioness moves intentionally, knowing her worth.
There will be no compromising, no settling for a lesser form of self.
She leads with her presence, and her power will be felt deep in the hearts of those she is called to attend to.
She engages without attachment, for she has learned the importance of letting go and taking it easy—like a Sunday morning.
She has received joy after mourning.
She is a guardian of her soul, a self-advocate, and a nurturer of her being.
She pours from overflow, letting the world know she has survived the fire and has become the flame.
She no longer blames those who once hurt her.
She has surpassed those seasons and embraced the will of her Father.
Tears and prayers have shaped this lioness.
She is ready to move—writing, leading, training, and creating—while declaring this truth…

The Message That Shifted EverythingWhen I received baby sister's morning message, everything struck me because I knew it was God speaking. Every single thing I had been praying and asking Him not to do, not to allow, He did it anyway. And I know it's because He is preparing me for my promised land.
In my promised land, there will still be giants, and I have to tap deeper into the lioness within me. She's alive, stronger than ever, reminding me I am not the old Denice. This is a new Dee, a Dee who no longer sees tears as weakness but as cleansing. Even when I hate the puffy eyes left behind, I know God is liberating me, releasing emotions I once tried to stifle. With my birthday approaching and grief heavy in my heart, He's showing me that release is necessary.

Stepping Into Position: Where Power AwaitsThe lioness inside me was placed there by God. He knew the plans He had for me and knew that I was ready to step into them. A few days ago, I told Serenity that we have to step into the position that God is calling us into because power is waiting for us there. This power is not just about influence or control, but about the strength and resilience that comes from aligning with God's purpose.

We can't stand outside of the position and expect the power to meet us where we are. We must step into the
season, even when uncertain about all the steps ahead. That's when God releases His power. And that's what this lioness represents. She moves with strategy, focus, and wisdom. She knows that not everyone can come with her. She no longer entertains what no longer serves her. She isn't the same woman she was before.

Tears as Cleansing, Not BurdenI've always been a crier. So much so that sometimes I wish I could just turn off the valve. My tears often leave me puffy-eyed and drained, making me feel like they're a burden. But I've come to understand that being able to cry is a gift. It's God's way of cleansing me from emotions that, if held in, could become disease in my body. Think about it--what happens when we hold onto pain, resentment, or grief? It starts to affect our health. Crying is a release, a detox for the soul. And now, I'm learning that my pain has a purpose—nothing I'm going through is in vain.


Bending, Not BreakingFinding out my mother-in-law passed away on the last day of February while also preparing to celebrate my 46th birthday has been a test of endurance. I'm learning that sorrow and celebration can coexist. It's a hard lesson, but it's teaching me balance—between tears and laughter, between loss and life. I can celebrate my birthday on Thursday and still find the strength to bury my mother-in-law on Saturday. This is bending, not breaking. This is endurance. This is the reality of a woman who walks with God, even when the path is heavy.

Moving With Divine PurposeNo matter how deep the pain cuts, moving with divine purpose means returning to a place of knowing—filled with prayer, worship, and surrender. It's knowing that God has already written my story, and nothing happens outside of His will.
It's knowing that no matter what He ordains or allows, He has me.
So,
I have no choice but to shake it off and move.
To
write.
To
lead.
To
train.
To
create.
Because
God has given me an assignment, no emotion, hardship, or loss can cancel what He has called me to do.



When Pain Becomes Passion
Every tear, every heartbreak, every storm—I have turned into fire, purpose, and power.
I am no longer just enduring pain. I am using it.
To fuel my calling.
To set others free.
To become everything God has called me to be.
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2/7/2025 0 Comments

Breaking the Cycle: Ushering My Soul into God's Custody

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Breaking the Cycle: Ushering My Soul into God's Custody

Tap In: What cycles have kept you bound? What walls need to come down so you can enter the life God has called you to?

On February 1, 2025, I felt like I would lose my mind. The thunderstorm released from my eyes was different. I woke up to an unrecognizable woman in the mirror and vowed never to let Dee experience that again. I can't grow in these cycles anymore.
Abba, help me to be free.
Please teach me how to be the fighter I need to be in this season.
This reoccurring wall will be demolished this year.

I can't walk in fear of losing anymore.
I belong to You. You are my Abba, and You know your plans for me.
I recommit my body and soul to You.
I usher me, myself, and I into Your protective custody.
Will You teach me about really living and loving in You?
Some people don't deserve my essence, and I must retreat with my fractured heart.
Dear world, don't take it personally if I seem detached.
I am.

Retreating into Healing
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I am stepping away to be rebuilt.
To be restructured by the hands of the One who knows every fracture in my soul.
This year, I refuse to repeat cycles that keep me bound to spaces and people who do not honor my essence.
Some will misunderstand this.
Some will think they have access, but they no longer do.
Some will take it personally.
I can't afford to care.
My healing is personal.
This season is about tearing down the walls that have confined me and standing in the freedom that has always been mine.
I am no longer afraid of losing people.
I am more afraid of losing myself.
I choose to be free.

God is healing my body and soul.This is not just my testimony.
It can be yours, too.

Your Moment to Write✍🏾📓
Grab your Writer's Notebook and let your words become a powerful affirmation of your journey towards healing and personal growth.
  • What cycles do you need to break?
  • Where have you been giving your essence to people who don't deserve it?
  • How can you retreat into God's presence and allow Him to heal you?
Now, it's your turn to make your own declaration.

Scripted
📖 "See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland." – Isaiah 43:19 (NIV)
📖 "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." – Psalm 34:18 (NIV)
📖 "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!" – 2 Corinthians 5:17 (NIV)

What's Next?

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1/3/2025 2 Comments

Why Do Trees Fall?

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Why Do Trees Fall?
Have you ever wondered why trees fall?
Trees don't fall because they are inherently weak
but because their roots haven't developed the strength to anchor them firmly.

​This simple observation holds profound implications for our lives, serving as a beacon of hope for personal growth and resilience.

As I reflect on 2024 and its undeniable truths, I've realized
that we are, in many ways, like trees.
We, too, have roots that require nurturing and strengthening to withstand the inevitable storms of life.


The Tale of Two Trees
Some trees grow comfortably where they are planted.

These trees bask in the convenience of being watered daily by a sprinkler, content with their easy existence.
They don't need to stretch their roots deep to search for life's sustenance. On the outside, they seem healthy and strong. But this superficial security is deceptive. When life's storms rage, these trees often fall, their shallow roots unable to keep them grounded.


Over time, broken branches and soft spots make these trees vulnerable to invaders, like carpenter ants, which exploit the wounds to create nests and tunnels. Similarly, when we ignore our sore spots or rely too heavily on surface-level comforts, we expose ourselves to vulnerabilities that can shake us to the core.

The Call for Deep Roots
Just as trees with unhealed trauma struggle to remain upright in the face of fierce winds, we must also prioritize intentional soul work. We can ensure our roots are firmly grounded in truth and resilience by taking charge of our personal growth, addressing our wounds, and Getting our S.H.I.T. (Strength, Hope, Intentions, Tenacity) Together.

How to Strengthen Your Roots in 2025
To thrive in 2025, let's focus on nurturing our roots and ensuring we are deeply anchored in life's true sustenance (GOD).

Here are a few guiding principles:

Stay Connected to the Source

"I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me, you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned." — John 15:5-6

Let's remain connected to our Creator, the ultimate source of strength and nourishment. Without this connection, our roots cannot grow deep, and our foundation cannot stand.

Stay Alert and Be Prayed Up

"Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour." — 1 Peter 5:8
Life requires vigilance and consistency. Stay alert, guard your heart, and constantly pray to stay focused in the face of distractions and attacks that threaten your growth.
Bow (Be humble) & Worship (Praise God) "Oh come, let us worship and bow down; let us kneel before the Lord, our Maker!" — Psalm 95:6
"Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up in honor." — James 4:10

True strength comes from humility. When we kneel before God in worship, we position ourselves to be lifted in due season.

Remember that it's God's Way According to His Word & His Will in His Time!

A Year of Intentionality

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Let 2025 be the year of intentionality—a year when we consciously nurture our roots and strengthen our foundations. As we embark on this journey, may we rise no matter how fierce the storms may be. By committing to intentional body and soul work, we align ourselves with the life God created us to live.


Let's embrace this growth journey with courage, faith, and determination, knowing that deep roots will keep us grounded and help us thrive. Together, we can stand tall and resilient, no matter what comes our way.
May your roots grow deep, your foundation remain strong, and your branches reach for the heavens.
— Dee



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