Rips and Repairs- Lessons of Surrender and Strength for 2025

There is life after loss—a life filled with lessons of surrender and strength. As life changes, so do relationships, and sometimes that shift is necessary.
This year, I've learned that determining whether to hold on or let go is a powerful act that requires intentionality, prayer, and deep reflection. The way someone reacts to your concerns matters. Relationships are a two-way street; you can't work harder on someone than they are willing to work on themselves. Acknowledging the rips in a relationship cannot rest on one person's shoulders. Words must align with actions, and the fruits of their labor must be visible.
Repair work is not a solo project. It takes two willing partners to mend what's been broken. Trying to fix something alone only deepens the cracks. Be gentle with yourself in this process, and honest about your feelings. Your emotions are valid. Your skepticism isn't a flaw; it's a necessary tool when searching for safety and rest. Remember, self-care is not selfish, it's essential.


Relationship restoration takes hard work, commitment, and time. Trust is fragile and can only be regained or rebuilt when both parties are dedicated to honesty and the process. Don't overlook deep-seated character issues—those don't simply disappear. Transformation requires soul work; only the individual can take on that responsibility.
The rebuilding process of a relationship isn't easy. It's painful and demanding, but it is possible when both people commit to the work required. However, not every relationship is meant to be mended. Sometimes, release is the most loving act you can offer—for yourself and the other person.

I carry these lessons forward with an open heart, preparing for a new year. This season has been one of surrendering what no longer serves me and leaning into the strength I didn't know I had. I am walking into the next chapter with hope, knowing that while I can't repair all rips, there is beauty, growth, and love waiting on the other side of letting go.

May we all take the time to reflect on what we're holding onto and what we're willing to release. May we enter the new year with hearts softened by grace yet strengthened by wisdom.
Here's to new beginnings, to the endless possibilities that await us, and to the strength we've gained from our experiences.

With love and hope,
​Dee

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